Wedding planning is an undeniably all-consuming process. With plenty of deadlines to adhere to, your schedule becomes more and more hectic as the date draws closer. In the midst of planning, it's easy to forget that your guests have their own schedules, and that their calendars need to be accommodated.
Save the dates are a great way to get your guests thinking about your wedding day and get them excited about it, too! Make sure your wedding date is secure on your loved ones’ calendars by sending save the dates well in advance.
Save the dates are a courteous way to let recipients know the date and location of your wedding so they can plan ahead and make necessary accommodations. A save the date doesn’t need to contain as much detail as a wedding invitation. While you can save time with a digital save the date, sending a paper save the date will give your guests a beautiful keepsake they can save and cherish. A traditional, paper save the dates create a unique sense of occasion, and provide an undeniably traditional and classy touch.
Here are a few crucial pieces of information to include:
If you're unsure how to convey your particular personality and style in a save the date, never fear! Save the dates can be much less formal than wedding invitations, so take this chance to show off a bit of you and your fiancée’s personalities!
Most save the date designs have text guidelines that you are easy to follow and customize, or you can replicate one of the three popular styles below.
Save the date
Thomas and Sydney
San Francisco, California
Formal invitation to follow
Rebecca Franklin Stuart and John Bailey Ingram
Are getting married in New York City
May 30th, 2018
Formal invitation to follow
We're spreading the news!
Jack and Diane are getting hitched!
Please save the date: 9/15/17 in Chicago, Illinois
Invitation to follow
As save the dates are relatively new to the wedding lexicon, etiquette around creating and sending save the dates can be a little unclear. Here are some of the most common misconceptions and what to do about them.
If you’re wondering when to send save the dates consider your location. For most weddings, sending save the dates 6-8 months in advance is fine, but if you’re planning a destination wedding make sure to send them 8-10 months before the big day.
Save the dates should be sent to everyone invited to your wedding and yes, this does include your parents, siblings, family members, closest friends and even your bridal party. These special guests probably don't need the reminder, but it is courteous to include them in every step of your wedding process. If your budget doesn't allow it, you can cut some cost by making sure everyone who you know will be traveling to attend receives a save the date.
Save yourself some difficulty and address your save the dates to every guest invited to the big day. For example, if children are welcome, address the save the dates to "The Williams Family," or if they’re not, address to "Mike and Nancy Williams." If you know your cousin has a serious girlfriend but have never learned her name, now is the time to find out so it’s totally clear who’s invited.
Your save the date is not the place to include wedding registry information. It’s proper etiquette to include a registry enclosure card with your formal invitations, or list your information on your bridal shower invitations, but make sure to keep your save the date gift-free!
The number one rule to keep in mind with save the dates is that you must send a wedding invitation to anyone who received a save the date. Letting recipients know that an invitation is to follow your save the date is crucial, as you don't want guests to start contacting you for further information you may not even know yourself!
Sending a paper save the date doesn’t necessarily mean you have to send a card. Nowadays there are so many fun options for printing your save the dates!
These different formats can be mixed and matched to set the style for your big day. And you don’t have to send the same type to every guest.
Each of these styles will stand out in the mailbox and get everyone excited for your wedding day!