Congratulations! You're engaged! Now you get to tell all your friends and family and invite them to the best party ever — your wedding. There are a few things to note about wedding invitation wording.
Filling out invitations correctly can be a bit tricky. There are many titles to remember, spell-checks to implement, and unexpected updates to keep track of — Wow, how many times will Aunt Betsy move before the wedding? All of these details are critical to have. So we decided to create a helpful guide on how to address wedding invitation envelopes for every situation.
Keep reading for illustrated instructions showing proper etiquette for addressing the outer and inner envelopes. Or, use our interactive form for quick answers on how to address invitations for most everyone attending your wedding. Make it even easier by letting us address your invitations for you with free address printing!
This is the most traditional form of addressing an invitation. Should you choose to include both persons' names, the outer envelope can be addressed as Mr. and Mrs. HIS_FIRSTNAME LASTNAME. An alternate version includes both names as Mr. FIRSTNAME and Mrs. FIRSTNAME LASTNAME.
It's best to list the person to whom you're closest to first on the outer and inner envelopes. If you know each one as well as the other, you may write them in alphabetical order.
Similar to the address for a married couple, both names should be included on the envelopes.
If only one in the couple has a distinguished title, it is proper to write his or her name and title first. If the wife has the professional title, you will address her name depending on whether or not she uses her maiden name professionally.
If both parties are doctors with different last names, both their names can be written on the inner and outer envelopes.
If both parties are doctors with the same last name, you may address the envelopes as follows:
Many of the same rules that you use for doctors also apply for military personnel, judges, reverends, etc. If both parties have distinguished titles, it is best to write the person with the highest rank first. Also, make note to add "The Honorable" to a title in the case of elected government positions, excluding the President.
The best practice is to address her as either Mrs. or Ms. and use her maiden name if she doesn't use her former husband's surname.
Traditionally, you would use the deceased husband's last name in the address, as well as his first name. However, this depends greatly on her personal preference and what she will find respectful. Some choose to use their own first name, and sometimes also their own last name. If you're unsure, it's best to ask what she prefers.
Younger guests can be included on the inner envelope of their parents' invitation listed by first name. However, children are normally not addressed on the outer envelope. For girls under 18, you'll want to use "Miss." Boys don't require a title until they're 18.
Unless they live at home with their parents, they should receive their own invitations.
For most couples, you’ll be responsible for collecting the RSVPs and keeping track of who can and cannot attend. In these cases, the return envelope should be your current address.
But some couples may have unique scenarios, like the bride and groom living separately or having someone else send your invitations on your behalf, like a parent or wedding planner. If you’re not the main point of contact for RSVPs, then write the other person’s full name and address on the return envelope instead. This will ensure that your guest’s responses are being collected by the correct person.
If you’re in the middle of an important move, and you’re unsure whether or not your current address will be the same as you send out invites, ask a close friend or family member if it’s alright if you write their address instead. You can even create a shared tracking spreadsheet or volunteer to pick up all the collected invites at their home to make it easier on them. It’s better to play it safe and have a dependable return address instead of trusting all your mail will be re-routed.
If you’re collecting more than just the RSVP, like meal choices and attendance to other events (like a rehearsal dinner or post wedding brunch), these should all be sent to the same return address in one envelope. This decreases the risk that you won’t lose some envelopes in the mail and minimizes any confusion while you’re collecting responses.
Finally, don’t forget to add a stamp to every return envelope! While this may seem like an unnecessary feature, it makes the RSVP process easier on your guests by avoiding a special trip to the post office. If you prefer to collecting RSVPs online, you should still write on your invitation or add a special card insert letting guests know where to go to RSVP.
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