Wedding Guest List Etiquette
Children and Wedding Etiquette
Are you unsure about whether to invite children to your wedding? The answer depends on your family dynamic, your personal preferences and your wedding style. There are positives and negatives to inviting children and wedding etiquette recommends that you keep some of the following points in mind.
If children are an integral part of your family dynamic, you'll probably want them to be a part of the celebration of your new life. With a gathering of family and friends, children typically add special meaning to your big day.
Additionally, you'll have wonderful memories and photos of the children having fun on the dance floor. Also, inviting children will afford you the opportunity to enjoy a nice reunion with those relatives and friends who also have kids.
Another bonus to having kids at the wedding is that if your fianc has special children in their lives, having them be part of the wedding signifies that you understand the importance of his or her family.
To include children on your special day, you could hire a sitter to watch them during the ceremony. In addition, you should consider having a separate children's table at the reception with favors, crayons, coloring books and toys.
Does all this sound like too much work? You're not alone in your thinking. There are several downsides to having kids present at your wedding. For example, they can disrupt a serious, intimate ceremony. Additionally, when you want the focus to be on you, kids may steal the limelight.
But be aware, if you don't invite children, you will, in all likelihood, have to deal with guests who cannot attend due to lack of childcare or who may be upset because you didn't invite their children.
Wedding Invitations and Children
So you've made the decision about whether you're going to invite children to your wedding or not. The first suggestion is to be specific with regards to the wedding invitations and children. If you choose not to invite children, address the envelope to Mr. and Mrs. Guest. If you want to have children, invite The Guest Family
If you're not inviting children and the guests RSVP with the children included, call them and politely and diplomatically discuss the situation with them. In fact, if you're going to have an adults-only reception, it may be a good idea to telephone all of the guests with children beforehand to ensure they understand. This is also a good way for you to gauge how many people will be inconvenienced by not bringing their children.
Try to be understanding--your decision to not include children at your wedding can cause stress. On the other hand, your guests have to similarly understand that you're not trying to be discriminatory, but you are planning YOUR special day, and you want it to be perfect.
The question for you must answer for yourself is: will it be more perfect with children or without?