Wedding Gift Ideas: What to Buy the Happy Couple
When someone gets married, it's one of the happiest times in their life. If you're a family member or friend, it's an amazing opportunity to celebrate with them and to share in their happiness. Planning a wedding is a pretty hectic process and it can put a lot of stress on anybody. It can also be stressful trying to help someone through this journey. An important aspect of helping plan a wedding, is deciding what you're going to give the happy couple. For some, it may be very obvious what kind of present they request from their friends and family. For others, it can be a total guessing game. If the couple doesn't have a gift registry, this list can help you get started and to narrow down your choices for finding the perfect gift for your loved one.
As the parents of the groom or bride, there are special tips and general guidelines on what you're expected to pay for and how to help with the wedding. However, there really aren't any rules regarding gift giving. This is a special time to show your child how much you really care for them and their new life partner. There are several different options you can go for when looking for a gift.
Something From The Heart
If you're looking to keep things special and intimate, a family heirloom is a great option. This can be the main gift or go with something else. But it's a fantastic time to pass something on from one generation to the next. Perhaps you have an old watch that you would love to give your son on his big day. Or maybe you can give your daughter a locket from your family. Something important that has meaning. No one else can provide this exact same gift and it's a truly special moment.
You can also choose to pass down something from the family. It doesn't have to be a family heirloom, but something unique that comes from the heart. Maybe grandma left behind her treasured book of recipes and you want the bride to have it. Or maybe there is a set of dishware that has been kept in storage for a while and you think it would look lovely in their house. This is an extremely thoughtful gift and they're sure to love it.
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Is Money Okay?
It is generally expected that the parents will help with wedding expenses. If you're in the financial position to do so, you can also give money as a gift to the new couple. It doesn't necessarily have to just be a handful of cash given to them. For instance, you can help support their honeymoon. There are plenty of websites available online to help you group fund their vacation. Perhaps you can help them with a down payment on a home. Or maybe you would like to take care of their first month's rent. Money doesn't have to be an impersonal gift, but rather a thoughtful gesture of love. It would really help to take a burden off of the bride and groom if they had some expenses paid for.
Can You Ask Them What They Want?
Another option is to simply ask the couple what exactly they want. If they didn't clarify what they wanted in the beginning, it's a good idea to sit down and talk with them. Let them know you can help out financially or that you would love to help them in any way you can. I'm sure they have a few things they need taken care of and it really shows your support if you sit down and talk with the bride and groom about what they could really use. Let them know what you're comfortable spending or how much time you can dedicate to a project for them.
If you're a family member looking to get them something, this can take some insight as well. Perhaps you're a caring aunt or uncle and also want to get you niece or nephew something special on their day. You don't have to go all out with the gift but you can still show you care by getting something small.
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Personalized gifts not only make great gifts, but are thoughtful and from the heart. Maybe the couple recently bought a house and you want to offer them a new plaque to hang over their door with their names on it. Something cute like that lets them know that you took the time to think of them. Maybe organizing an album full of pictures of both of them would be a great gift. Perhaps a photobook about their time being engaged or maybe wall art with images from their engagement photo-shoot. Just incorporating some unique traits about them would make things more personal.
You can also get creative when thinking of a gift. It doesn't necessarily have to be something physical that you hand them. Perhaps you could buy them some tickets to their favorite concert. Or you pay for them to go get their portrait done. Activities that they can do together will create happy and long lasting memories. Thinking ahead to the honeymoon is also a great opportunity to look for stuff for them do to. Maybe they're going to Hawaii to scuba dive. Offer them a gift certificate to a local place so they can have all of their gear already paid for.
When thinking about the couple, find out about items that they need. Maybe they need new tires on their car or the bride can't afford to fly in her cousin. These concerns may have been expressed and you can be the solution to their problem. It doesn't necessarily have to be related to the wedding at all. They will greatly appreciate they you noticed the small things and offered up a way to help. This will definitely go a long way rather than just purchasing a store bought lamp.
As a sister or brother, you could find some lovely and creative items from the past. Maybe you could put together a sweet video documenting the growth of your sibling into the person they are today and their relationship. You could also find things from your childhood such as pictures or fun stories to share with everyone. Other options would be to plan some of the events such as the bachelor party or the bridal shower. The couple would love your support and commitment to helping out and making everything go a lot easier. You can also just steal your sibling away and treat them to a great day out on the town before everything gets too crazy.
As a friend of the couple, it can be a tricky situation finding them a gift. You can't really go all extravagant and purchase them a car (unless you really want to) but you also can't just get them a card. There are ways to find a nice middle when it comes to both extremes.
Acts of Service
As mentioned, planning a wedding can be stressful. Perhaps you can take some of that stress away and make things easier on them. Maybe you could plan the bachelorette party and surprise the bride with a fun night out. Or perhaps you could take the groom out golfing one day and bring him back to a bar. Simply planning some activities that you know the couple would enjoy is a great way to help out. They will most likely need some extra help and now is your time to step in there and rise to the challenge. You can also get them fun things to relax such as a spa day for the bride or maybe some tickets to a sports game for the groom.
Something They Need
If the couple is moving in together after the wedding, it's a nice chance to get them something for their home. Talk with them and see if there is anything missing that they haven't gotten yet. Getting them a warm comforter on their bed is a sweet symbol of friendship. You could even make some things for their home. Again, Pinterest is a great resource for finding small crafts to do. This can really help if you can't afford to get them something expensive. Knitting a quilt, making picture frames, or building a book shelf are all unique projects you could make for the happy couple.
Perhaps you're attending the wedding and you don't really know the bride and groom that well, there are still options out there for you. It doesn't have to be as incredibly personal as other guest's gifts, but you can still find something to show your support and well wishes.
A gift basket is a simple yet cute gift to give to the couple. If you know them a little bit, perhaps find out some of their favorite treats or movies. If not, feel free to throw in some goodies for the honeymoon or when they return. Some champagne, a box of chocolates, and other candies make for a great little date night idea. They can take it with them wherever they are and just find a chance to relax.
Maybe you would like to make them some desserts or food items. If you can make a phenomenal cake, maybe present it to them once they return home. Or you could even bring it to another event such as the rehearsal dinner. If they're having some festivities at their house, offer to bring some main dishes over to feed the guests. This helps take some stress off of them and you still get to do your part.
You could also choose to get them a wedding scrapbook for when all of their pictures come in. You can pick from thousands of scrapbooks online or even make one yourself. Many places even have the option to customize it to include the bride and grooms names. This may be a small detail that they overlooked and they'll be happy to know that they have a place for all of their pictures when the time comes.
Traditional Wedding Gifts
Other traditional gift ideas include dishware, bottles of wine, and other household goods. There is nothing wrong with getting some of these as presents. It's likely that every couple is going to need these and it's always nice to have them on hand. If they do have a gift registry, you can simply go online and purchase any of the items that they have available. Otherwise, you can talk to the bride or groom or maybe even some of the other guests and see what they may need.
A group gift is also an option if you're looking to surprise the couple. There are several different websites available online that can help you crowd fund some of the things they may need. If they're going on a honeymoon, you can each donate money to their overall vacation or for some specific activities that they may want to enjoy while they're there. Other options include a down payment on a house or maybe even on a new car. These are all very expensive and probably too much for one person to pay for all on their own. With all of the guests contributing, the money adds up quickly and can really help the couple out in the long run.
In the end, a wedding is one of the most important times in a person's life. It can be incredibly stressful and overwhelming and you can help them out. If you're a parent, there are plenty of creative and thoughtful gift ideas you can give them. Perhaps a family memento or some financial assistance. As a family member, you can also find personal and small gifts to give such as customized accessories. Even if you're a close friend, you can find items to help out. Things such as making a picture frame or planning an event really go a long way. As a guest, you can still do your part and offer some help in the form of an actual present or even in reducing their stress. Overall, no matter who you are, you can find a loving and thoughtful gift to celebrate the marriage of one happy couple.